According to Indian Govt report in India in every 15 min a girl child or a boy child is sexually abused.
In the survey done by Women and children welfare ministry it is said that more than 53% children have confessed that they have been a victim of sexual harresment.
May be this is the reason why India is said as unsafe or dangerous country for children, stated in the world famous institute of Router newspaper.
If we want to change this situation about child sexual abuse then we should take some firm steps against these crimes. Not only Government or the police but we all are responsible to take the security action for our kids.
It's high time now that we should ponder over it to find a solid solution.
We all have small children so it's our resposiblity how to tackle with this situation .
The very first thing is to make children aware about this problem in play way method so they can understand it in a better way.
This problem is not only faced by girl child but even boys are the victims of molestation.
It's not necessary that only unknown people molest kids but according to a survey it has come to notice that maximum time the acquainted people are involved in these cases.
They are neighbours, relatives, friends of elder siblings, bus driver etc...Mostly the youngsters of 16 to 24years or senior citizens.
If your child is under 3 to 8 year's age category and if you feel your child should not be victim then you should just follow the following guidelines.
Now as a parents we should take our kids in confidence ,sit with them without any hesitation and tension, frankly speak to them.
Number 1:
Ask them wether they have heard about the word danger if they answer yes then ask them what is opposite of danger.
Obviously answer will be safe.
Number 2:
Explain about their body parts like head ,hand ,stomach ,legs ,these are the body parts. But there are few more body parts which are called as "Private parts".
So what are the private parts? The Private parts of the body are the parts which are covered by clothes.
Even when we go for swimming these private parts are covered.
The private parts are chest, bums and genitals (a part between two legs) ask them to repeat these body parts twice or thrice.
Number 3:
No one should see and touch our private parts neither you should see and touch others private parts.
Only ur Mammy, Dady, can see your private parts . Even a doctor can see you in the presence of parents.
Children may ask that can my grandparents touch or see my private parts ? In this case tell them yes but only your real grandparents and not others those who are in your surrounding.
Number 4:
Draw a circle on blank paper, make a list of people they know like friends neighbours, relatives and family members.
After making list ask them with whom they are comfortable, happy and to whom they love the most but only four to five people . Naturally their answer will be mummy ,papa ,grandparents , siblings and teachers.
Then you should reply them yes absolutely right. Your parent grandparents and teachers are the people who come in your safe circle.
Number 5:
If someone else tries to see or touch your private parts then what you should do ?
Strictly say "No " scream loudly. Ask the child to scream and say " No "and then simply run away from there and inform your parents about it.
Number 6:
Make them aware about one thing that there should be no secrets in between parents and children.
If anyone is telling you to keep secret and don't tell your parents about something then this is danger, you should tell everything to your parents and teachers.
After giving all information just do the revision of body parts, private parts, bad touch ,say "No",Safe circle etc.
Be friendly with your children so they will be comfortable to share their problems and happy moments with you.
After a gap of 15 days take follow up and if you feel some hesitation or strange changes in your child please look into the matter.
Some children may not come directly with complain because they are so innocent to differentiate wether it's a good touch or bad touch. Basically they are not aware that they are being victim of sexual haresment.
As a parent you should be more conscious, you need to listen and understand the small complaints like if they say they don't like particular uncle or don't want to travel in auto etc which will make you feel or understand that something went wrong. It might be the case of sexual haresment .
So parents it's very important to be very alert and vigilant in these types of cases.
If you feel awkward to teach or explain them about all these issues then please do search about "Good touch and Bad touch Espalier. This video will help you to understand how to converse with your child about this topic.
Even there is conversation between me and children where I have explained the children about bad touch , show them that video.
But I suggest it will be more effective when you will share this topic with them it will not only help your child to understand it in a better way but it will build a strong bonding between you people.
So let's owe today that we will keep our children safe and protected.
Sachin Usha Vilas Joshi
Education activist
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